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Saying YES to Yourself



When I sit and think about all the times in a day when my answer to a request is "yes"; then cross-reference that with how many times I am saying that to myself , the statistics are drastically one sided...why is this?  For me to be the ultimate expert on all things Queen Khira, you would think that I would no doubt know exactly what she NEEDS; so why are you denying yourself the power of "YES"?! 

My answer in short, I thought that by fulfilling the needs of those around me, it would ensure my peace of mind, and their happiness would vicariously be my own.  This was a thought process that served me well; until it didn't...I slowly but surely became resentful, and started to feel like a servant, and nothing more.  I needed to figure out quick fast and in a hurry what the problem was, and FIX it IMMEDIATELY.  

It is never a good thing, regardless of how must you love someone, to give everything you have and reserve nothing for yourself.  Granted, EVERY relationship in your life should be a reciprocal scenario, YOU are solely responsible for your own happiness, and ensuring that you are getting what it is you need.  this applies not only to others, but most importantly,  when it comes to how you are treating YOU.  


That quote sums it up perfectly.  You are the example for the rest of the world as to exactly you are and how you EXPECT to be treated.  If you are treating you shitty, then why would the next man do anything differently?  Stop sacrificing yourself and your needs thinking that you are doing something; you're not, just hurting yourself.  There has been a larger discussion being had about black mental health, and the effects of past trauma on the current psyche, yet I see very little discussion addressing the effects of what we do to ourselves on a daily basis that stunts the healing process.  These are just as pertinent, and have the ability to mentally cripple us in ways we have yet to discover.  We must train ourselves to Love ourselves UNCONDITIONALLY; there is no other way...~The Queen~


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