Versailles: The Life and Times of Queen Khira

When it comes to love and relationships, I find the most frequently asked question is, “how do you make it LAST?!”  I always find this to be a particularly strange question, ESPECIALLY if you and your partner have been together for a significant amount of time.  You SHOULD know that person better than anyone else, and hold all the keys for success in that particular relationship.  Asking someone else how to keep your stuff together is like asking someone else to explain what you are feeling: ridiculous and damn near impossible. First and Foremost, I DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT give relationship advice, nor do I insert myself into anybody’s personal situation, even when asked.  The reason being, whatever decisions you are arriving at concerning your mate are COMPLETELY yours to make, and whatever you decide will be YOUR life choice.  I want to be completely free from any repercussion that could potentially occur; you will NOT be blaming me for your poor decision mak...

There are some things in life you will NOT be able to take with you as you ascend to ultimate greatness, this includes PEOPLE.  Take a look at that image.  Its a full heart, but its filled with things that are important to YOU.  Its filled to the brim with your wonderful; are you really going to attempt to squeeze something that holds little meaning for you to fit, and compromise what matters? Listen, you no longer have time for foolishness and games.  Let's be PERFECTLY clear, we are speaking about ALL relationships, not just romantic ones.  EVERY relationship and interaction from here on out needs to be meaningful.  Why are you wasting time and energy on irrelevant things and people?  Relationships are to be reciprocal.  If both individuals are NOT receiving what they need, and its apparent that you are NEVER going to get and/or give what is needed for it to work, LET IT GO. There is nothing more painful than deception.  Unless you ar...

Ok, it's time for another PSA.  Because I haven't gone through a breakup in over a decade, I guess I kinda fell out of the loop as far as what "games" are currently being played, and was left off the mailing list to receive the newsletter containing all updates to the rules involved. When I first realized this, I was like, "Ok word, I've graduated to a new level of grown, the kids don't want to play with me anymore!" Well folks, even if this is a phase in your life that you have moved past, apparently you have to stay abreast for the people in your life that haven't... Breakups, especially ones with a TRUE bond, are never easy.  It's heartbreaking all around, even if you are not the one being dumped.  It causes strain not only on the relationship at hand, but those in close proximity as well.  Its sooo easy to dish out advice that says to run the streets and do whatever it takes to keep your mind off the situation.  We, as the outside ...

Its funny how the moment you stop giving your energy and attention to others, they all of a sudden remember you were in their lives.  I'm talking about those individuals so completely absorbed in themselves and the BS that surrounds their everyday lives.  Once you decide to put their mess down and focus on yourself, the sky parts for them and they begin a torrential downpour of guilt and negative feelings on you. There is no need to feel crazy, this is VERY REAL, and very much NOT your problem to surmount.  The problem belongs to the individual, and what they need to be evaluating, especially if you hold some level of importance to them, is what happened to cause the change in the relationship.  It was obviously an unreciprocated situation.  What the person should be attempting to comprehend is how to give you what it was that was lacking in the relationship to begin with.  It seems the hardest to get the support for our endeavors from those that we...

You know when you’re in that space when you meet someone and you’re trying to figure out if that person feels anything for you?  Then there is the rare occasion when you FEEL it before you actually KNOW.  I was standing in that very spot almost a decade ago... “So Cateye, when a man says, ‘what do you think of me?’, does that mean what I think it means?!”  Cateye replied, “well, it means both; he really wants to know what you think because he cares, and he cares what you think because he care for YOU”.  “Damn!  You know, I was really enjoying having a straight up legit friendship with the opposite sex.  Whelp, so much for that!!”  “Well, before we dive headfirst into another friend zone tragedy, tell me what happened!”  I said, “well OK, but I hope you speak music, because if not, this isn’t going to make any sense!” It all started one day on our way to work.  At the time, we were super tight, spending as much time as two unattached p...

“No one can love YOU like YOU can, it’s impossible.  When we start to embrace that and live our lives with this purpose in mind, maybe, just maybe, we will begin to understand exactly what it takes to be a twin flame.” In  Chinese philosophy ,  yin and yang  ( / ˈ j ɪ n   ˈ j ɑː ŋ / ;  Chinese :  陰 陽   yīnyáng , lit. "dark-bright", "negative-positive") describes how seemingly opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary,  interconnected , and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another. Many tangible  dualities  (such as  light and dark , fire and water, expanding and contracting) are thought of as physical manifestations of the duality symbolized by yin and yang. This duality lies at the origins of many branches of classical  Chinese science  and philosophy, as well as being a primary guideline of  traditional Chinese ...