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Neapolitan Ice Cream: A Lesson in Becoming Queen

Growing up, I never realized just how MANY lessons I was actually given on becoming Queen.  I was being groomed the entire time without ever knowing it.  One of the earliest lessons I can remember was being taught the "politics" on running an empire, satisfying the masses when everyone wants something different.  The way this lesson was taught to me was through the use of Neapolitan Ice Cream... At the Ponderosa, we LOVE our birthdays, and it is absolutely necessary that the occasion be marked with a family celebration.  Regardless of whatever plans you THINK you may have, it is a guarantee of a birthday cake fresh from the Italian bakery, Ice Cream, and Dinner.  I must have been about six years old, and the Mainor birthday season was in full swing, so that puts us at the middle to end of March, 1990.  Nana and I were in the kitchen, I was keeping her company as she put the finishing touches on one of her culinary delights.  The festivities were p...

Through the Looking Glass

Social Media is the Ultimate form of Virtual Reality... Everything we survey has been CHOSEN.  Handpicked, cultivated, and produced by the individual.  Every post meticulously crafted to the specifications of the creator.  I only see what you WANT me to see.  There is nothing “Real” about it.  It’s a place where you can be any version of yourself you so choose at any given moment; yet we have much less control in the creation process than we think... What is being created is actually being controlled by those exposed to the content.  What’s being put out is made specifically to ENTICE the audience; therefore, I am using that influence as the foundation of the DESIGN.  Each item curated and shared is in the hope that you will see it and PAY ATTENTION.  There is the rare “odd” individual that does not concern themselves with how much exposure their content gets; which still begs the question: Why?!  If you don’t care if it’s seen, wh...

Hold On..

Have you ever wondered why it is when we greet someone we care about we hug?  Why are we not simply by being in their company?  What is it inside us that compels us to join one body to another?  It's almost like a magnet, drawing you in... This is no mere coincidence, and does not happen simply because the individual is too irresistible not to touch...It is a genuine physical transfer of energy.  In addition to the tons of endorphins released, the embrace is literally putting a piece of yourself into another person, and vice versa.  You are able to FEEL the individual, from the inside out.  Our hearts and minds are totally in the know about this occurrence, which is why you feel "drawn" to the person to engage in this contact. Funny how our minds and hearts are full of information about things that are vital to our survival that we never contemplate or stop to think about.  While we may be performing an act that is seemingly second nature,...

Forgive Yourself

So we jumping in head first today!!!  Like we discussed in "You Only Owe Yourself" https://myflylifeatversailles.blogspot.com/2018/09/you-only-owe-yourself.html ,  the center of this Universe is YOU.  Its no coincidence that Universe begins with "U"!  There is absolutely NO ONE you owe an apology to before yourself.  We are our own worst enemies.  The amount of psychological pain we inflict on ourselves is staggering.  We actively engage in this mental terrorist attack by refusing to let go of people, situations, and events that no longer serve us.  As human beings, there is not one one among us, "No, Not One!  NO NOOT O-ONE!!" who has not done something they regret.  What sets us apart from those who are able to thrive is the ability to leave that disappointment where it belongs, in the past. Your experiences are simply visualization tools in your learning process.  Utilize them for what they are, learn everything you ...

You Only Owe YOURSELF

I had an epiphany the other day... What if we put all the energy we expel on others that is foolishly wasted BACK into ourselves, our life dreams, and into creating the world we CHOOSE to live in??!! Before we all become hopelessly selfish and self-involved, re-read, and take in the thought in its ENTIRETY!!!  I am talking SPECIFICALLY in instances where your positive energy, time, and effort are not being reciprocated. There are so many situations we find ourselves in to which we develop an animosity of sorts towards those we are actively trying to help when we don’t feel that same energy being returned to us in one form or another.  Yet, we are taking umbridge with the wrong individual.  The person we should be focusing those feelings is right there waiting on the other side of the mirror.  That is who entangled you and your resources to an individual making moves to which your higher self is not in agreement.  This is who we should look to for...

Bring it ALL to ME...

Ever since I became the master of my own Universe, there has been 1 song constantly spinning thru my head, I decided to share just in case anyone else is tapping into that same energy;-)  I'm not exactly sure what's been happening lately, but I have become OBSESSED with achieving personal success on my terms.  I have had an undeniable influx of creativity and ideas to get exactly what I want out of life, and the way I WANT TO GET IT!!!  Its been absolutely amazing, and I hope it NEVER stops!!  Taking a "by any means necessary" approach to my goals has been a benefit to me that I could have only imagined. Identifying and Embracing your dreams is precisely what we are to be doing right now.  Don't take synchronicity for granted.  Its not a coincidence that I can't get this song out of my head.  Its what I want, it ALL.  Act on them.  DO NOT take inspiration for granted, its your GOD POWER.  As I gravitate to the thing...

Happiness on Your Terms

If you are down, what turns it around for you?  Is it music, fresh air, the company of positive people etc?!  But is it really ANY of those things that hold the true power for change? You know, I find myself the most happy when I am staying TRUE TO MYSELF.  What I find most painful in life is having to endure and live up to the expectations of others.  Oftentimes this can lead to the pursuit of things and opportunities that we are less than passionate about.   Anne Shirley Cuthbert helped to put me back on track the other day by speaking some of the truest words I have ever heard.  In a nutshell, she said personal success is a guarantee as long as you are in “Pursuit of your Passion”.  Beautiful alliteration aside, this is soooo real.  If you are in perfect sync with what it is you want in life, REGARDLESS of outside influence and what is said, then why is it that you’re NOT the captain of your LIFE vessel?!! FEAR??? I say this with three question...

Out of My Element

Have you ever had something happen, either directly or indirectly, that shakes shit up in your world so much in that moment that it leaves you contemplating whether or not what just occurred was real?  As of late, this is a feeling that I have become all too familiar with. What I noticed happening was that I was allowing whatever happened to hijack my day and consume my energy.  In these moments, all I could feel myself yearning for was my routine and the things in everyday life that renew me everyday... So why wasn't I doing these things to get myself out of this weird space??!! That is the million dollar question.  That feeling of being stuck can be overwhelming; this is the opportune time for a reset...which is exactly what I did.  I began the day with meditation, as I felt completely disconnected from my higher self.  It was like remote viewing, I could see my higher self and that she was desperately attempting to communicate with me, but ...

The Greatest Story Ever Told: The Missing Pages

Now this is what I’m talking about,  a little literary therapy!!  Our thoughts are complicated enough to keep straight, so why not write it all down?!  I am an avid believer in putting thoughts down on paper(obviously!), but the therapeutic benefits are phenomenal!! There are so many ways to keep a personal journal.  You can use it to record and interpret your dreams, it can be a place you write your goals/aspirations and begin to manifest them into real life; it can even be a place to vent frustrations.  Regardless of what you choose to write down, those blank pages will always be there for you. It’s the quiet, patient ear you have longed for in a friend, but with the added benefit of only giving you the response you want to hear.  It’s also a wonderful source of self-reflection and a way to watch yourself grow. Even the most novice of authors can keep a journal the emergence of the “bullet list journal”, in which case you are just listing off thoughts, id...