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Love and Lavender

  I don't know if you can feel it, but we are on our own right now...The Universe has said, "You've done enough, now Chill .  I'll take it from here."  Soooo much easier said then done!  Whe n the Universe says STOP, it means EVERYTHING- including Love.  As if we weren't all already out here in full panic; worried we will be spending our adult lives alone.  Now  the Universe is like, "Don't worry, I got this.  I'm not gonna tell you shit, just Trust.  In the meantime, take up a new hobby, I'll let you know when I'm ready.😁"    Immerse Yourself IN  Yourself...This is what the Universe is asking of us; to make ourselves and our needs the ONLY priority.  To the point where you can no longer stand your own company.  Oh don't worry bitches, I'm right here in this same boat of seemingly boredom-I digress; Self Love .  I'm determined to see this through; like when you're working out and ready to quit because you'r...

Pause…Until You Are READY

  Sometimes, we just have to sit Still...There is absolutely NOTHING to be done.  This place, my Loves, is by far one of the toughest destinations along our journey... One of the reasons we enjoy routine is because it provides a certain sense of comfort.  We welcome the known; it's a familiar friend...Whelp, you, just like me, chose MORE.  We couldn't leave well enough alone; and so, here we are!  On the glorious bright side, arriving at the "Pause", is a definite sign of progression😀.   We are now learning to shed the construct of TIME.  Just Stop.  Do not allow stress, anxiety, or the spirit of overwhelm force any action from you Ever  again.  Simply Chill .  That's it.  Know that the storm is raging OUTSIDE.  You are perfectly safe on the inside; with all you need until it passes. Only a Fool would go out in weather like that!  Instead, focus on the Present Moment.    Enjoy the warmth of the fi...

Elements of Style: A Life Lesson to Future Queens

For as long as I can remember, the one thing that has driven me was the possibility of getting dressed up.  If it was a special occasion the next day, I would be in bed the night before, too excited to sleep, thinking about the out I would be wearing the following day.  The women in my life each played a significant role in molding my ideas about what the well-dressed female REALLY is, and the importance of wielding this power.  Te right outfit can mesmerize an entire room, and has the potential to effect the outcome of certain situations.  It was the summer before I turned 13, and my aunt Dinneen gave me a lesson that STILL resides with me, and is apparent and active in my children...the Art of Style... I had always been involved in the process of picking my own clothes to a certain extent, but I had NEVER gone school shopping without my Grandmother.  It had ALWAYS been our thing, and I looked forward to it.  This particular year, however, when I ...

Neapolitan Ice Cream: A Lesson in Becoming Queen

Growing up, I never realized just how MANY lessons I was actually given on becoming Queen.  I was being groomed the entire time without ever knowing it.  One of the earliest lessons I can remember was being taught the "politics" on running an empire, satisfying the masses when everyone wants something different.  The way this lesson was taught to me was through the use of Neapolitan Ice Cream... At the Ponderosa, we LOVE our birthdays, and it is absolutely necessary that the occasion be marked with a family celebration.  Regardless of whatever plans you THINK you may have, it is a guarantee of a birthday cake fresh from the Italian bakery, Ice Cream, and Dinner.  I must have been about six years old, and the Mainor birthday season was in full swing, so that puts us at the middle to end of March, 1990.  Nana and I were in the kitchen, I was keeping her company as she put the finishing touches on one of her culinary delights.  The festivities were p...

Dream Catcher

Does anyone else wonder what happens when we sleep?  I have always been fascinated with the dream state, and its connection to our conscious lives.  We know that we dream; but what exactly is a dream?  My brain is so full throughout the day; constantly unfolding and rearranging thoughts every second of the day; therefore its hard to fathom that sleep is a mundane as to ONLY be providing rest to the body and mind...There has to be more to this process, and here are my thoughts on exactly what that is... Dream interpretation has long been a topic of discussion amongst the masses; since the beginning of time.  People have unceasingly sought council to determine what our subconscious mind is trying to say.  One thing can certainly be agreed upon, I DO think it is a means of communication with our higher selves.  Like meditation, it is a safe place to meet, and align our mental with our spiritual state.  The difference is, in a meditative s...

Pay Attention

Are you familiar with the expression, “like the blind leading the blind”?  If not, it’s specifically referring to the phenomenon that occurs in which the person who is supposed to lead and be familiar with whatever the situation may be is just as oblivious as the individual seeking guidance.  Generally, the person who sought them out is so relieved to have someone else lead, they blindly follow.  Moreover, they ACCEPT the task and begin the false advisement process...WTF?!   This fuckery stops now.  I find it particularly corney that a person would rather follow behind anyone or anything based off the opinions of the so called “court of popular opinion”.  Look at that last statement and truly dissect it: Court -a place to be tried, convicted, and judged.   Popular -what is actively consumed by the masses and subject to change at a moments notice.   Opinion- an individual’s personal perspective of a particular situation and/or scenario; no...

Through the Looking Glass

Social Media is the Ultimate form of Virtual Reality... Everything we survey has been CHOSEN.  Handpicked, cultivated, and produced by the individual.  Every post meticulously crafted to the specifications of the creator.  I only see what you WANT me to see.  There is nothing “Real” about it.  It’s a place where you can be any version of yourself you so choose at any given moment; yet we have much less control in the creation process than we think... What is being created is actually being controlled by those exposed to the content.  What’s being put out is made specifically to ENTICE the audience; therefore, I am using that influence as the foundation of the DESIGN.  Each item curated and shared is in the hope that you will see it and PAY ATTENTION.  There is the rare “odd” individual that does not concern themselves with how much exposure their content gets; which still begs the question: Why?!  If you don’t care if it’s seen, wh...

Being Present

This Moment, the one happening right now, is ALL that there is.  Allow me to explain... Yes, there is a past, things that have already happened.  What must be understood about these events is, once they happen, they are OVER.  It's gone.  If it is any point in time that you are not actively engaged in, that point does not currently exist.  The principle is also works on the inverse; anything that has yet to occur, has yet to come into existence , and should have absolutely NO bearing on what is currently happening to you. Our past is a experienced-based tool from which to learn and grow FORWARD.  It is not meant to trap us or the people in our lives, preventing our best lives from being brought to fruition.  If there is something behind you, LET IT GO.  Grasp the lesson and understand that there is no going back.  On the same note, we must also do the same when it comes to anticipation of events yet to come.  Being wrapped...

Mindset for the Miraculous

It's time to wrap our minds around the true power of imagination.  I know we have dabbled in past posts with visualization, and how our thoughts shape our reality.  We are now going to take the conversation to the next level, and begin to discuss what we are TRULY capable of... Our imaginations are the key to life itself.  There are numerous studies that address the indiscernible differences between what is ACTUALLY real, and what the mind perceives as so.  The brain's reactions to these two scenarios are identical. So what, Pray-Tell, does this mean? It means a young God has the capability to make ANYTHING happen!  Whatever I can imagine, I can make my reality.  As long as I can FEEl what it is I am seeing, as in the way I feel when I actually HAVE it; I have provided the Universe with all the materials necessary to set the creation process in motion...The Law of Attraction has now been alerted. It's ON like Popcorn! The next ste...

Being Your Own Light

Existing in a world where codependency is the norm, it comes as no surprise to me that we are never directed to first look within ourselves for the answers to some of life's biggest challenges and unanswered questions.  As a consumer in a capitalistic society, we are hardwired to seek solace in the comfort of others, retail therapy, or some other unnecessary over indulgence in an attempt to forget.  The funny thing is, these things are simply designed as a means to forget, not at all associated with the actual healing process,  which is essential to you being able to move on. People and vices are not answers, nor are they feelings.   What we are attempting to come to terms with in ANY situation, are the feelings behind it, and how they affect us.  There isn't another living soul on the planet with more experience on the subject of your feelings than YOU.  So why are we so quick to seek out the opinions of others on a subject it is impossible for th...

Forgive Yourself

So we jumping in head first today!!!  Like we discussed in "You Only Owe Yourself" https://myflylifeatversailles.blogspot.com/2018/09/you-only-owe-yourself.html ,  the center of this Universe is YOU.  Its no coincidence that Universe begins with "U"!  There is absolutely NO ONE you owe an apology to before yourself.  We are our own worst enemies.  The amount of psychological pain we inflict on ourselves is staggering.  We actively engage in this mental terrorist attack by refusing to let go of people, situations, and events that no longer serve us.  As human beings, there is not one one among us, "No, Not One!  NO NOOT O-ONE!!" who has not done something they regret.  What sets us apart from those who are able to thrive is the ability to leave that disappointment where it belongs, in the past. Your experiences are simply visualization tools in your learning process.  Utilize them for what they are, learn everything you ...

FINALLY Let Go...

The Universe has been talking, have you been LISTENING??!!👀  I sure have, and my entire existence has been set on FIRE!!!  Its been so amazing, the feeling is ALMOST indescribable.  In a prior post titled "Perfect, Just the Way It Is " https://myflylifeatversailles.blogspot.com/2018/07/perfect-just-way-it-is.html  , we began to scratch the surface of the concept that all is just as it should be, and our job as humans is to start conciously feeling our way through life.  Today its time to talk about just how its done... Formerly known as Queen Skeptic, you should know I need HARD EVIDENCE before I can hop on board.  One thing you don't do is challenge the Universe!  As soon as I started focusing on my own individual happiness, and putting Love into every negative thought, my soul was set aglow!!  Of course, me being Petty Betty, could NOT resist putting my superpowers to the test.  I stated to the Universe that each time I saw a star...

"Feeling" My Way...

Life has been something special lately!  After a year filled with the moon showing out like it hasn't for centuries, it's amazing that any goddesses are left standing!👏  It's literally felt like all the craziness of the outside world decided to pay me a visit over the past several weeks and wreak havoc on every peaceful crevice I used to rely on for refuge.   What do we do on those days when it feels like the universe has turned its back on us? During what appeared to be a full on Tempest of BS, I needed a quiet.  I desperately needed to retreat to my Mind Palace and analyze this sh💥t storm piece by piece.  I started to pay attention to everything that was going on around me, particularly what was happening to the people in my everyday life.  EVERYONE was going THROUGH IT. When I took that much needed step back, I was able to discern what I was doing.  Instead of me focusing on the here and now, I was obsessing over hypothetic...

You Only Owe YOURSELF

I had an epiphany the other day... What if we put all the energy we expel on others that is foolishly wasted BACK into ourselves, our life dreams, and into creating the world we CHOOSE to live in??!! Before we all become hopelessly selfish and self-involved, re-read, and take in the thought in its ENTIRETY!!!  I am talking SPECIFICALLY in instances where your positive energy, time, and effort are not being reciprocated. There are so many situations we find ourselves in to which we develop an animosity of sorts towards those we are actively trying to help when we don’t feel that same energy being returned to us in one form or another.  Yet, we are taking umbridge with the wrong individual.  The person we should be focusing those feelings is right there waiting on the other side of the mirror.  That is who entangled you and your resources to an individual making moves to which your higher self is not in agreement.  This is who we should look to for...

Treat Yourself RIGHT

For My Aunt Dianne I NEED YOU TO SURVIVE... With that being said, lets get down to business!!  "No man is an island"; well certainly NOT.  In addition to needing human interaction, we also have things we simply NEED just to be comfortable in our own skin.  STOP acting like this does not apply to YOU!!! I want you to stop for a second and think of the last thing you did for yourself just for the pure pleasure of it?!  I'll Wait...While evolving, understand that you are more human than ever before.  Your desires will not disappear, but evolve WITH you, becoming more pure, and more focused on the things you truly desire.  Your biggest mistake would be to DENY yourself what it is you really want in this life.  It may seem of little consequence that you drank a Sierra Mist as opposed to the 7UP you were craving, but we are now aware that the Micro is a direct mirror of what is happening on the Macro level in life, and is desperate to get your ...

Relationships and the Enlightened Individual

There are some things in life you will NOT be able to take with you as you ascend to ultimate greatness, this includes PEOPLE.  Take a look at that image.  Its a full heart, but its filled with things that are important to YOU.  Its filled to the brim with your wonderful; are you really going to attempt to squeeze something that holds little meaning for you to fit, and compromise what matters? Listen, you no longer have time for foolishness and games.  Let's be PERFECTLY clear, we are speaking about ALL relationships, not just romantic ones.  EVERY relationship and interaction from here on out needs to be meaningful.  Why are you wasting time and energy on irrelevant things and people?  Relationships are to be reciprocal.  If both individuals are NOT receiving what they need, and its apparent that you are NEVER going to get and/or give what is needed for it to work, LET IT GO. There is nothing more painful than deception.  Unless you ar...

Happiness on Your Terms

If you are down, what turns it around for you?  Is it music, fresh air, the company of positive people etc?!  But is it really ANY of those things that hold the true power for change? You know, I find myself the most happy when I am staying TRUE TO MYSELF.  What I find most painful in life is having to endure and live up to the expectations of others.  Oftentimes this can lead to the pursuit of things and opportunities that we are less than passionate about.   Anne Shirley Cuthbert helped to put me back on track the other day by speaking some of the truest words I have ever heard.  In a nutshell, she said personal success is a guarantee as long as you are in “Pursuit of your Passion”.  Beautiful alliteration aside, this is soooo real.  If you are in perfect sync with what it is you want in life, REGARDLESS of outside influence and what is said, then why is it that you’re NOT the captain of your LIFE vessel?!! FEAR??? I say this with three question...

Playing Games With Your Peace of Mind

Yo, MY PEACE is worth fighting for.  with that being said, we are at WAR.  There will be enemies, there will be allies, and most importantly, there will be CASUALTIES.   Your enemies will be those who have absolutely no interest in a peaceful existence, and could give 2 shits about preserving yours.  Your allies will be the like minded individuals who are currently on their own personal journey, constantly striving to be their best versions.   Now your casualties, hehehe, is where it starts to get complicated, and your feelings start to become involved.  Your casualties will be the individuals that you actually thought had potential.  They will usually be the ones we fought the hardest against our own better judgement to save.  These fatalities will be painful to our psyche, because, sometimes we have to let go of someone that MATTERS.  The most painful part is coming to that realization.  ...