Versailles: The Life and Times of Queen Khira

  QueenKhira.com has always been a place for you to come for self-discovery.  It's meant to encourage you, push your boundaries, and provide much-needed respite from the programming reality offers.  I wanted to infuse this idea into your everyday lives, to make it organically apart of your daily design.  With that, Our Sitewide theme was born, I'm Doing THIS, for ME...  I still try not to be amazed at the perfection of a synchronistic moment, it's truly a remarkable feeling.  To discover your desired state of being, and to be able to return to it, whenever you desire, is REAL magic.  Ladies and Gentleman, it's time to embrace it as the new norm.  It's time to relax into the natural ebb and flow of life, relinquishing to control we never truly had...and why the Hell not?!  What's the alternative, badgering myself into an anxiety-filled submission, heavy with self-pity and disappointment?!  Yea, No.   In all things, there is Cosm...

This idea started in my journal this morning, then I later thought to pose it to the rest of the world...I recently came across an article (linked below the post) on theminsjournal.com that talked about lucid dreaming.  I no longer believe in coincidence, an took this as a response to the unanswered questions bouncing around in my head about what is actually HAPPENING to my mind and thought process as I grow, evolve, and change.  It broke me down in plain English, and helped me gain much-needed clarity on my current situation... What the article basically said, in a nutshell is that we are never truly awake until/unless we are completely focused, and living in the present moment.  The concepts of past, present, and future are all one construct; all existing right now, simultaneously.  In essence, we are constantly experiencing these things both consciously, and subconsciously.  What we do from day to day, is experienced through a state of Lucid Dreaming; ...

For as long as I can remember, the one thing that has driven me was the possibility of getting dressed up.  If it was a special occasion the next day, I would be in bed the night before, too excited to sleep, thinking about the out I would be wearing the following day.  The women in my life each played a significant role in molding my ideas about what the well-dressed female REALLY is, and the importance of wielding this power.  Te right outfit can mesmerize an entire room, and has the potential to effect the outcome of certain situations.  It was the summer before I turned 13, and my aunt Dinneen gave me a lesson that STILL resides with me, and is apparent and active in my children...the Art of Style... I had always been involved in the process of picking my own clothes to a certain extent, but I had NEVER gone school shopping without my Grandmother.  It had ALWAYS been our thing, and I looked forward to it.  This particular year, however, when I ...

Growing up, I never realized just how MANY lessons I was actually given on becoming Queen.  I was being groomed the entire time without ever knowing it.  One of the earliest lessons I can remember was being taught the "politics" on running an empire, satisfying the masses when everyone wants something different.  The way this lesson was taught to me was through the use of Neapolitan Ice Cream... At the Ponderosa, we LOVE our birthdays, and it is absolutely necessary that the occasion be marked with a family celebration.  Regardless of whatever plans you THINK you may have, it is a guarantee of a birthday cake fresh from the Italian bakery, Ice Cream, and Dinner.  I must have been about six years old, and the Mainor birthday season was in full swing, so that puts us at the middle to end of March, 1990.  Nana and I were in the kitchen, I was keeping her company as she put the finishing touches on one of her culinary delights.  The festivities were p...

I have been feeling like a caterpillar for quite some time now...knowing that my life and experiences are necessary for the transformation ahead, yet I can't help yearning to feel my wings glowing in the sun!  I found a chart on pinterest, that broke down the different steps to spiritual awakening into 7 separate stages: Stage 1:  Unhappiness and Emptiness Stage 2:  Perception Shifts Stage 3:  Seeking Answers and Meaning  Stage 4:  Finding Answers and Experiencing Breakthroughs Stage 5;  Disillusionment and Feeling Lost Stage 6:  Deeper Inner Work Stage 7:  Integration, Expansion, Joy This was incredibly helpful in me figuring out exactly where I was in my journey; it also helped to appease my impatience by offering an explanation as to what's going on inside of me... According to this, I have left stage 5, that of "Disillusionment and Feeling Lost", and am now fully immersed in stage 6, my :Deeper Inner Work"...

AKA: Heaven.  Oh how my dreams are filled with such a Utopia!  Ah, the pure pleasure to be gained by being able to peruse social media without the slightest intimation of stupidity... You know, the older I get, the less tolerant I am to fuckery.  I don't like  being told what is DOPE ; that decision is entirely up to ME.  How are you possibly able to make that determination on my behalf?  Moreover, your vision has been obscured, by either the money to be made, or the attention to be gained.  Countless individuals have thrown both quality and overall dopeness straight out the window, and have packaged and branded their own fresh serving of filth.  well I refuse to participate in the sheeplike consumption of the masses... Give me something to be EXCITED about!!  Put something out that touches my SOUL.  what happened to the Beautiful and Profound?  Is art now DEAD?  It has been quite a while since i have been tr...

When I sit and think about all the times in a day when my answer to a request is "yes"; then cross-reference that with how many times I am saying that to myself , the statistics are drastically one sided...why is this?  For me to be the ultimate expert on all things Queen Khira, you would think that I would no doubt know exactly what she NEEDS ; so why are you denying yourself the power of " YES "?!  My answer in short, I thought that by fulfilling the needs of those around me, it would ensure my peace of mind, and their happiness would vicariously be my own.  This was a thought process that served me well; until it didn't...I slowly but surely became resentful, and started to feel like a servant, and nothing more.  I needed to figure out quick fast and in a hurry what the problem was, and FIX it IMMEDIATELY .   It is never a good thing, regardless of how must you love someone, to give everything you have and reserve nothing for yourself....

Are you familiar with the expression, “like the blind leading the blind”?  If not, it’s specifically referring to the phenomenon that occurs in which the person who is supposed to lead and be familiar with whatever the situation may be is just as oblivious as the individual seeking guidance.  Generally, the person who sought them out is so relieved to have someone else lead, they blindly follow.  Moreover, they ACCEPT the task and begin the false advisement process...WTF?!   This fuckery stops now.  I find it particularly corney that a person would rather follow behind anyone or anything based off the opinions of the so called “court of popular opinion”.  Look at that last statement and truly dissect it: Court -a place to be tried, convicted, and judged.   Popular -what is actively consumed by the masses and subject to change at a moments notice.   Opinion- an individual’s personal perspective of a particular situation and/or scenario; no...

Have you ever wondered why it is when we greet someone we care about we hug?  Why are we not simply by being in their company?  What is it inside us that compels us to join one body to another?  It's almost like a magnet, drawing you in... This is no mere coincidence, and does not happen simply because the individual is too irresistible not to touch...It is a genuine physical transfer of energy.  In addition to the tons of endorphins released, the embrace is literally putting a piece of yourself into another person, and vice versa.  You are able to FEEL the individual, from the inside out.  Our hearts and minds are totally in the know about this occurrence, which is why you feel "drawn" to the person to engage in this contact. Funny how our minds and hearts are full of information about things that are vital to our survival that we never contemplate or stop to think about.  While we may be performing an act that is seemingly second nature,...

This Moment, the one happening right now, is ALL that there is.  Allow me to explain... Yes, there is a past, things that have already happened.  What must be understood about these events is, once they happen, they are OVER.  It's gone.  If it is any point in time that you are not actively engaged in, that point does not currently exist.  The principle is also works on the inverse; anything that has yet to occur, has yet to come into existence , and should have absolutely NO bearing on what is currently happening to you. Our past is a experienced-based tool from which to learn and grow FORWARD.  It is not meant to trap us or the people in our lives, preventing our best lives from being brought to fruition.  If there is something behind you, LET IT GO.  Grasp the lesson and understand that there is no going back.  On the same note, we must also do the same when it comes to anticipation of events yet to come.  Being wrapped...

Let's be clear, the YOU I am referring to is the REAL you, your ESSENCE...What has you done lately to feed your SOUL?? Go ahead and ponder, I'll wait... As the most important part of who we are, what really makes us the people we are, it would stand to reason that we would focus ample time and attention towards its continued peace and happiness.  Sometimes we lose sight of the fact that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, not the other way around.  The way we engage with the world reflects this key point.   It is your mortal obligation to properly excite and illuminate the soul.  It is your only purpose.  "Well, how do we know if its what my soul wants to do?!"  Oh trust me, YOU WILL KNOW!  Do you remember how it felt the first time you heard your favorite song?  That's the feeling you will experience every time you are doing something your soul would love.  It's a feeling you could get ADDICTED to....

Existing in a world where codependency is the norm, it comes as no surprise to me that we are never directed to first look within ourselves for the answers to some of life's biggest challenges and unanswered questions.  As a consumer in a capitalistic society, we are hardwired to seek solace in the comfort of others, retail therapy, or some other unnecessary over indulgence in an attempt to forget.  The funny thing is, these things are simply designed as a means to forget, not at all associated with the actual healing process,  which is essential to you being able to move on. People and vices are not answers, nor are they feelings.   What we are attempting to come to terms with in ANY situation, are the feelings behind it, and how they affect us.  There isn't another living soul on the planet with more experience on the subject of your feelings than YOU.  So why are we so quick to seek out the opinions of others on a subject it is impossible for th...

The  Universe  is all of space and time and their contents, including planets, stars, galaxies, and all other forms of matter and energy. While the spatial size of the entire  Universe  is still unknown, it is possible to measure the observable  universe . So with that being said, and you knowing that the ENTIRE Universe exists within us, why are you still focused on all the things you CAN'T do??👀 There is no such thing as "easing" your way into destiny, you were meant to jump in head first.  Even if you have no idea of where you want to go or what you want to do, just move in the direction your passions take you.  Your heart most certainly knows the way.  The most important thing is to MAKE A MOVE.   Dreams are specific to an individual for a reason, because they belong to YOU !    There isn't another soul in existence who is responsible for bringing your dreams to life.  As a matter of fact it's ...

So we jumping in head first today!!!  Like we discussed in "You Only Owe Yourself" https://myflylifeatversailles.blogspot.com/2018/09/you-only-owe-yourself.html ,  the center of this Universe is YOU.  Its no coincidence that Universe begins with "U"!  There is absolutely NO ONE you owe an apology to before yourself.  We are our own worst enemies.  The amount of psychological pain we inflict on ourselves is staggering.  We actively engage in this mental terrorist attack by refusing to let go of people, situations, and events that no longer serve us.  As human beings, there is not one one among us, "No, Not One!  NO NOOT O-ONE!!" who has not done something they regret.  What sets us apart from those who are able to thrive is the ability to leave that disappointment where it belongs, in the past. Your experiences are simply visualization tools in your learning process.  Utilize them for what they are, learn everything you ...

The Universe has been talking, have you been LISTENING??!!👀  I sure have, and my entire existence has been set on FIRE!!!  Its been so amazing, the feeling is ALMOST indescribable.  In a prior post titled "Perfect, Just the Way It Is " https://myflylifeatversailles.blogspot.com/2018/07/perfect-just-way-it-is.html  , we began to scratch the surface of the concept that all is just as it should be, and our job as humans is to start conciously feeling our way through life.  Today its time to talk about just how its done... Formerly known as Queen Skeptic, you should know I need HARD EVIDENCE before I can hop on board.  One thing you don't do is challenge the Universe!  As soon as I started focusing on my own individual happiness, and putting Love into every negative thought, my soul was set aglow!!  Of course, me being Petty Betty, could NOT resist putting my superpowers to the test.  I stated to the Universe that each time I saw a star...

Live and Let Live.  It’s such a basic and simple concept, and living thus has boundless potential.  It’s just sooo unfortunate that our Egos flat out refuse to accept it. I cannot, for the life of me, figure out why we as humans feel we have the right to add context and commentary to things that do not effect us in any way.  The way I feel about myself and the things I choose to do is MY BUSINESS.  Your thoughts and opinions of me and how I choose to live my life is soooo totally irrelevant to me that I pity you for the waste of energy. While in the process of getting your ENTIRE life, you DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT have time to be concerned with what others think of your eternal light and how you choose to express it.  On that same note, you have relinquished this right when it comes to others.   Yo, mind your business, and worry about your BI.   If there is something that you feel you simply MUST express to another individual about the way they move, t...

With an entire world to explore with ENDLESS possibilities, it’s about time we started to explore them, and each opportunity open to us.  Our minds are boundless, chomping at the bit to be taken places we never could have imagined... So how to we let go of reservations and take flight?! It all starts with knowing who you ARE and EXACTLY what it is you WANT.  Meditate on this concept, and continue to do so until you find the answer.  Once that concept is CRYSTAL clear, you can start pursuing those ideals.   Until these things are realized, take it one day at a time, one task at a time.  Eat what makes you feel good.  Wear the clothes that make you feel like a Star.  Take a few moments each night to envision the day you want to have and put those things into action; Start each day the way YOU want to. Intention prompts Action.  We constantly disappoint ourselves by simply not completing tasks we had our heart set on doing. ...

"All I do is WIN WIN WIN NO MATTER WHAT!!!!"  Yes!!! This is my new mantra!!  I'm sorry, but I just CANNOT stop smiling!!  I'm hoping that happiness is overly contagious for the rest of my life.  How great would it be for everyone you come in contact with to become infected with your JOY?! Oh wait, that is POSSIBLE!!! Smiling from the inside out is a concept I came up with to show just how possible it is to throw a little of your happiness over to the next man... Think about how your favorite song made you FEEL the first time you heard it.  Stay inside that feeling for a few minutes.  Now, think about how you felt when you learned all the words...Take that and let it spread all over your body, filling your heart with that original JOY. You got it?  Can You feel it?  Are you sparkling yet?!  You are? Ok perfect.   Now it’s time to take your show on the road... Let that song play over and over again as you go through your...

When we were kids, friendship was so simple.  If I gave you a bracelet, then it was ON; we were practically siblings from that point foward!!  If only it was still so cut and dry... Oh Wait, IT IS!!! Since starting my journey, I have noticed myself becoming agitated with friends and acquaintances I previously didn’t feel this  way about.  The source of my aggravation came from a place that was feeling like I was a much better friend and source of support to others than they are to me.  I was angry because I still have that childlike view of friendship, that I get what I GIVE.  Because I wasn’t feeling that reciprocation, I became imbittered, and started putting stipulations and regulations on myself and the level of friendship I would give out. This of course is TOTALLY INSANE.   What I decided to do after much back and forth with my higher self was to redefime the friendships/relationships in my life.  Just because you and I are friendly and acq...

Sometimes I'm so good, I impress myself!!  This is actually something I wrote for Nouveau, my makeup blog, but after writing it, I realized the readers of Versailles could definitely benefit and appreciate this as well;-) Makeup is one of those things in life that is meant to improve our perception of reality.  Makeup in and of itself does nothing to enrich the individual on a spiritual level, however, because of the effect it has on what we perceive as REAL, and has the capability to improve what you see and how you are seen each day when you open your eyes, it holds unspeakable power.  I'm using this to my advantage, because, no person is complete if there are things inside that make us feel less than desirable.  This post won't contain any beauty hacks or products to try, it's going to offer TRUE PERSPECTIVE, it's makeup for the inside... Let's Begin... What have you done today to make you smile?  Take the time to hand craft your day.  Wha...