Versailles: The Life and Times of Queen Khira

For as long as I can remember, the one thing that has driven me was the possibility of getting dressed up.  If it was a special occasion the next day, I would be in bed the night before, too excited to sleep, thinking about the out I would be wearing the following day.  The women in my life each played a significant role in molding my ideas about what the well-dressed female REALLY is, and the importance of wielding this power.  Te right outfit can mesmerize an entire room, and has the potential to effect the outcome of certain situations.  It was the summer before I turned 13, and my aunt Dinneen gave me a lesson that STILL resides with me, and is apparent and active in my children...the Art of Style... I had always been involved in the process of picking my own clothes to a certain extent, but I had NEVER gone school shopping without my Grandmother.  It had ALWAYS been our thing, and I looked forward to it.  This particular year, however, when I ...

Growing up, I never realized just how MANY lessons I was actually given on becoming Queen.  I was being groomed the entire time without ever knowing it.  One of the earliest lessons I can remember was being taught the "politics" on running an empire, satisfying the masses when everyone wants something different.  The way this lesson was taught to me was through the use of Neapolitan Ice Cream... At the Ponderosa, we LOVE our birthdays, and it is absolutely necessary that the occasion be marked with a family celebration.  Regardless of whatever plans you THINK you may have, it is a guarantee of a birthday cake fresh from the Italian bakery, Ice Cream, and Dinner.  I must have been about six years old, and the Mainor birthday season was in full swing, so that puts us at the middle to end of March, 1990.  Nana and I were in the kitchen, I was keeping her company as she put the finishing touches on one of her culinary delights.  The festivities were p...

AKA: Heaven.  Oh how my dreams are filled with such a Utopia!  Ah, the pure pleasure to be gained by being able to peruse social media without the slightest intimation of stupidity... You know, the older I get, the less tolerant I am to fuckery.  I don't like  being told what is DOPE ; that decision is entirely up to ME.  How are you possibly able to make that determination on my behalf?  Moreover, your vision has been obscured, by either the money to be made, or the attention to be gained.  Countless individuals have thrown both quality and overall dopeness straight out the window, and have packaged and branded their own fresh serving of filth.  well I refuse to participate in the sheeplike consumption of the masses... Give me something to be EXCITED about!!  Put something out that touches my SOUL.  what happened to the Beautiful and Profound?  Is art now DEAD?  It has been quite a while since i have been tr...

When I sit and think about all the times in a day when my answer to a request is "yes"; then cross-reference that with how many times I am saying that to myself , the statistics are drastically one sided...why is this?  For me to be the ultimate expert on all things Queen Khira, you would think that I would no doubt know exactly what she NEEDS ; so why are you denying yourself the power of " YES "?!  My answer in short, I thought that by fulfilling the needs of those around me, it would ensure my peace of mind, and their happiness would vicariously be my own.  This was a thought process that served me well; until it didn't...I slowly but surely became resentful, and started to feel like a servant, and nothing more.  I needed to figure out quick fast and in a hurry what the problem was, and FIX it IMMEDIATELY .   It is never a good thing, regardless of how must you love someone, to give everything you have and reserve nothing for yourself....

Necessity is defined as something vital to existence; and/or completion of a task.  So I beg the question: Are you doing what is NECESSARY for your own personal happiness?  I’ll take it one step further and inquire, “if so, are you implementing them every day, just as effortlessly as breathing?”  I’ll go ahead and assume the answer on your behalf... That would be a resounding NO!!  I can say this because I wasn’t either.  All I knew was that I was becoming increasingly irritated by people and things in my immediate environment.  Nothing had occurred to cause the sudden shift, and I had no “true” source for my discontent.  Arriving at an impasse, I took to meditation to have a”peak” inside myself, per se.  What I found was that I was not focusing on ANY of the little things that brought me JOY.  As a matter of fact, EVERYTHING that I normally did just to appreciate ME had fallen to the wayside.  This is why my higher self had BEE...

Are you familiar with the expression, “like the blind leading the blind”?  If not, it’s specifically referring to the phenomenon that occurs in which the person who is supposed to lead and be familiar with whatever the situation may be is just as oblivious as the individual seeking guidance.  Generally, the person who sought them out is so relieved to have someone else lead, they blindly follow.  Moreover, they ACCEPT the task and begin the false advisement process...WTF?!   This fuckery stops now.  I find it particularly corney that a person would rather follow behind anyone or anything based off the opinions of the so called “court of popular opinion”.  Look at that last statement and truly dissect it: Court -a place to be tried, convicted, and judged.   Popular -what is actively consumed by the masses and subject to change at a moments notice.   Opinion- an individual’s personal perspective of a particular situation and/or scenario; no...

Social Media is the Ultimate form of Virtual Reality... Everything we survey has been CHOSEN.  Handpicked, cultivated, and produced by the individual.  Every post meticulously crafted to the specifications of the creator.  I only see what you WANT me to see.  There is nothing “Real” about it.  It’s a place where you can be any version of yourself you so choose at any given moment; yet we have much less control in the creation process than we think... What is being created is actually being controlled by those exposed to the content.  What’s being put out is made specifically to ENTICE the audience; therefore, I am using that influence as the foundation of the DESIGN.  Each item curated and shared is in the hope that you will see it and PAY ATTENTION.  There is the rare “odd” individual that does not concern themselves with how much exposure their content gets; which still begs the question: Why?!  If you don’t care if it’s seen, wh...

Have you ever wondered why it is when we greet someone we care about we hug?  Why are we not simply by being in their company?  What is it inside us that compels us to join one body to another?  It's almost like a magnet, drawing you in... This is no mere coincidence, and does not happen simply because the individual is too irresistible not to touch...It is a genuine physical transfer of energy.  In addition to the tons of endorphins released, the embrace is literally putting a piece of yourself into another person, and vice versa.  You are able to FEEL the individual, from the inside out.  Our hearts and minds are totally in the know about this occurrence, which is why you feel "drawn" to the person to engage in this contact. Funny how our minds and hearts are full of information about things that are vital to our survival that we never contemplate or stop to think about.  While we may be performing an act that is seemingly second nature,...

This Moment, the one happening right now, is ALL that there is.  Allow me to explain... Yes, there is a past, things that have already happened.  What must be understood about these events is, once they happen, they are OVER.  It's gone.  If it is any point in time that you are not actively engaged in, that point does not currently exist.  The principle is also works on the inverse; anything that has yet to occur, has yet to come into existence , and should have absolutely NO bearing on what is currently happening to you. Our past is a experienced-based tool from which to learn and grow FORWARD.  It is not meant to trap us or the people in our lives, preventing our best lives from being brought to fruition.  If there is something behind you, LET IT GO.  Grasp the lesson and understand that there is no going back.  On the same note, we must also do the same when it comes to anticipation of events yet to come.  Being wrapped...

It's time to wrap our minds around the true power of imagination.  I know we have dabbled in past posts with visualization, and how our thoughts shape our reality.  We are now going to take the conversation to the next level, and begin to discuss what we are TRULY capable of... Our imaginations are the key to life itself.  There are numerous studies that address the indiscernible differences between what is ACTUALLY real, and what the mind perceives as so.  The brain's reactions to these two scenarios are identical. So what, Pray-Tell, does this mean? It means a young God has the capability to make ANYTHING happen!  Whatever I can imagine, I can make my reality.  As long as I can FEEl what it is I am seeing, as in the way I feel when I actually HAVE it; I have provided the Universe with all the materials necessary to set the creation process in motion...The Law of Attraction has now been alerted. It's ON like Popcorn! The next ste...

Let's be clear, the YOU I am referring to is the REAL you, your ESSENCE...What has you done lately to feed your SOUL?? Go ahead and ponder, I'll wait... As the most important part of who we are, what really makes us the people we are, it would stand to reason that we would focus ample time and attention towards its continued peace and happiness.  Sometimes we lose sight of the fact that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, not the other way around.  The way we engage with the world reflects this key point.   It is your mortal obligation to properly excite and illuminate the soul.  It is your only purpose.  "Well, how do we know if its what my soul wants to do?!"  Oh trust me, YOU WILL KNOW!  Do you remember how it felt the first time you heard your favorite song?  That's the feeling you will experience every time you are doing something your soul would love.  It's a feeling you could get ADDICTED to....

Existing in a world where codependency is the norm, it comes as no surprise to me that we are never directed to first look within ourselves for the answers to some of life's biggest challenges and unanswered questions.  As a consumer in a capitalistic society, we are hardwired to seek solace in the comfort of others, retail therapy, or some other unnecessary over indulgence in an attempt to forget.  The funny thing is, these things are simply designed as a means to forget, not at all associated with the actual healing process,  which is essential to you being able to move on. People and vices are not answers, nor are they feelings.   What we are attempting to come to terms with in ANY situation, are the feelings behind it, and how they affect us.  There isn't another living soul on the planet with more experience on the subject of your feelings than YOU.  So why are we so quick to seek out the opinions of others on a subject it is impossible for th...

So we jumping in head first today!!!  Like we discussed in "You Only Owe Yourself" https://myflylifeatversailles.blogspot.com/2018/09/you-only-owe-yourself.html ,  the center of this Universe is YOU.  Its no coincidence that Universe begins with "U"!  There is absolutely NO ONE you owe an apology to before yourself.  We are our own worst enemies.  The amount of psychological pain we inflict on ourselves is staggering.  We actively engage in this mental terrorist attack by refusing to let go of people, situations, and events that no longer serve us.  As human beings, there is not one one among us, "No, Not One!  NO NOOT O-ONE!!" who has not done something they regret.  What sets us apart from those who are able to thrive is the ability to leave that disappointment where it belongs, in the past. Your experiences are simply visualization tools in your learning process.  Utilize them for what they are, learn everything you ...

Life has been something special lately!  After a year filled with the moon showing out like it hasn't for centuries, it's amazing that any goddesses are left standing!👏  It's literally felt like all the craziness of the outside world decided to pay me a visit over the past several weeks and wreak havoc on every peaceful crevice I used to rely on for refuge.   What do we do on those days when it feels like the universe has turned its back on us? During what appeared to be a full on Tempest of BS, I needed a quiet.  I desperately needed to retreat to my Mind Palace and analyze this sh💥t storm piece by piece.  I started to pay attention to everything that was going on around me, particularly what was happening to the people in my everyday life.  EVERYONE was going THROUGH IT. When I took that much needed step back, I was able to discern what I was doing.  Instead of me focusing on the here and now, I was obsessing over hypothetic...

When it comes to love and relationships, I find the most frequently asked question is, “how do you make it LAST?!”  I always find this to be a particularly strange question, ESPECIALLY if you and your partner have been together for a significant amount of time.  You SHOULD know that person better than anyone else, and hold all the keys for success in that particular relationship.  Asking someone else how to keep your stuff together is like asking someone else to explain what you are feeling: ridiculous and damn near impossible. First and Foremost, I DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT give relationship advice, nor do I insert myself into anybody’s personal situation, even when asked.  The reason being, whatever decisions you are arriving at concerning your mate are COMPLETELY yours to make, and whatever you decide will be YOUR life choice.  I want to be completely free from any repercussion that could potentially occur; you will NOT be blaming me for your poor decision mak...

"All I do is WIN WIN WIN NO MATTER WHAT!!!!"  Yes!!! This is my new mantra!!  I'm sorry, but I just CANNOT stop smiling!!  I'm hoping that happiness is overly contagious for the rest of my life.  How great would it be for everyone you come in contact with to become infected with your JOY?! Oh wait, that is POSSIBLE!!! Smiling from the inside out is a concept I came up with to show just how possible it is to throw a little of your happiness over to the next man... Think about how your favorite song made you FEEL the first time you heard it.  Stay inside that feeling for a few minutes.  Now, think about how you felt when you learned all the words...Take that and let it spread all over your body, filling your heart with that original JOY. You got it?  Can You feel it?  Are you sparkling yet?!  You are? Ok perfect.   Now it’s time to take your show on the road... Let that song play over and over again as you go through your...

When we were kids, friendship was so simple.  If I gave you a bracelet, then it was ON; we were practically siblings from that point foward!!  If only it was still so cut and dry... Oh Wait, IT IS!!! Since starting my journey, I have noticed myself becoming agitated with friends and acquaintances I previously didn’t feel this  way about.  The source of my aggravation came from a place that was feeling like I was a much better friend and source of support to others than they are to me.  I was angry because I still have that childlike view of friendship, that I get what I GIVE.  Because I wasn’t feeling that reciprocation, I became imbittered, and started putting stipulations and regulations on myself and the level of friendship I would give out. This of course is TOTALLY INSANE.   What I decided to do after much back and forth with my higher self was to redefime the friendships/relationships in my life.  Just because you and I are friendly and acq...

Ever since I became the master of my own Universe, there has been 1 song constantly spinning thru my head, I decided to share just in case anyone else is tapping into that same energy;-)  I'm not exactly sure what's been happening lately, but I have become OBSESSED with achieving personal success on my terms.  I have had an undeniable influx of creativity and ideas to get exactly what I want out of life, and the way I WANT TO GET IT!!!  Its been absolutely amazing, and I hope it NEVER stops!!  Taking a "by any means necessary" approach to my goals has been a benefit to me that I could have only imagined. Identifying and Embracing your dreams is precisely what we are to be doing right now.  Don't take synchronicity for granted.  Its not a coincidence that I can't get this song out of my head.  Its what I want, it ALL.  Act on them.  DO NOT take inspiration for granted, its your GOD POWER.  As I gravitate to the thing...

See, if I had sky like this to meditate under each day at dusk, I'd be running outside READY to kiss the sky!!lol  That sky is seriously gorgeous and instantly centering me just looking a it!  Today's post is just a quick come thru to put you guys up on a guided meditation I have recently become OBSESSED with.   The video is linked below via YouTube, and I CANNOT sing its praises loud enough.  It has the perfect balance of relaxation and visualization, taking me EXACTLY where I need to be everytime.  I look forward to this guided meditation each time I have it on the agenda for the day.  I use this to reconnect when I feel like I'm just out here flailing around and need to ground myself.       Something that this mediation had me thinking about that I don't think ever crossed my mind prior to this was what imagining what my higher self actually LOOKS like.  I don't recall ever thinking of this before. ...

Have you ever had something happen, either directly or indirectly, that shakes shit up in your world so much in that moment that it leaves you contemplating whether or not what just occurred was real?  As of late, this is a feeling that I have become all too familiar with. What I noticed happening was that I was allowing whatever happened to hijack my day and consume my energy.  In these moments, all I could feel myself yearning for was my routine and the things in everyday life that renew me everyday... So why wasn't I doing these things to get myself out of this weird space??!! That is the million dollar question.  That feeling of being stuck can be overwhelming; this is the opportune time for a reset...which is exactly what I did.  I began the day with meditation, as I felt completely disconnected from my higher self.  It was like remote viewing, I could see my higher self and that she was desperately attempting to communicate with me, but ...